Questions & Answers: Part Six
Retractions and Revisions
Before reading this let me be clear, in the context of this post I am talking strictly about times when the opportunity to have sex with a guy that I find hot presents itself. I'm not saying that I turn every encounter I have into something sexual. I know the difference between a friendly hello and a sexual hello.
In, Can I Have Sex With You?, I tried to explain that I could have sex with people that I find physically attractive even if they had a lack luster personality. Which is actually just partly true.
I do it alot in my line of work. When deciding on whether or not I want to do a scene, I'm not given much time to get to know my potential scene partners. I can't call them and interview them before hand. We don't get to go out on a date first or read each others horoscopes. Most of the time a studio will just email me an offer, telling the date of the shoot, what type of scenes they want me in, how many scenes they want me to do, and who my scene partners would be. I basically just have to look at their pictures and decide from there in about a day or two before they offer my spot to another model. If I accept the offer and I get there to find the guy is a complete jack ass, then I still have to do the scene. In those cases I just focus on the fact that the guy is at least good-looking and not focus so much on the person behind the exterior. Even though its rare, sometimes it really does feel like a job. So that right there is one of the main reasons why it is safe to say that most of the extramarital sex I have is based solely on looks and not personality.
Now when it comes to recreational extramarital sex. The story is a little bit different. For me, most of the sex I have, involving guys who aren't Marcus, is just sex. Its all about pure physical pleasure and desire. I already have someone special in my life and if I want to make new friends, then I'll make new friends at a different time. But when I'm horny and Marcus isn't available, if an opportunity arises then I just want to get off and have some fun. Plain and simple. I don't need nor do I want to get to know a guy that I probably won't see again after I'm fucked and he cums. The times I have seen a previous hook-up again, it was because his cock tasted so good I wanted more.
I try my best to keep things strictly sexual because outside of filming, a personality can be a deal breaker. One little statement can turn what would of been a sweat inducing, cum drenching night, into a sex-less waste of my time. And why on earth would I want to ruin the chance of a free, hot, protein filled meal? Just like you, there are many things a person can do or say to me that would completely turn me off.
One person can have many different faces. For example: Bob is a complete bore in public, at parties he just sits there and doesn't say much, you could have a more enjoyable conversation with a mute than with Bob, but get him naked and he turns into a totally nasty, verbal, dominant top.
Now see, if I take the time to get to know Bob's non-sexual side first then I probably would never find out that he's hot in bed. I would lose interest five minutes into our non-sexual conversation and move on. And honestly, I'd rather spend hours getting fucked by a wild hot stud than spend five minutes getting to know the non-sexual side of a person that I might end up disliking. I mean, if the main goal here is to have sex, then lets talk sex, not life stories, not movies, not work, not politics, not relationships, JUST SEX.
I'm not saying that every guy I have sex with is a person I wouldn't ever be friends with. Obviously it would be cool to find guys that I would love hanging out with and having sex with. I'm just saying that when I'm horny for a guy, getting to have sex with him is more important to me than finding out if he voted for McCain or Obama.
So when I said good looks can make up for an unattractive personality, it was a mistake. The correct statement would be: If I found out that the dick I wanted to suck was attached to someone I found mentally unappealing, then I most likely wouldn't suck it. So when it comes to a potential bedmate's non-sexual side, ignorance is bliss.